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I suffered. I learned. I changed.

Letter from Era*, who is still giving life to her dreams while living in SOS Children’s Village Tirana.

Era is a talented 15 year old girl who decided to share this letter as a way of outspoken advocacy for children’s rights and voice.

“This year is described with 3 sentences. I suffered. I learned. I changed.

You’re going to ask: “Why aren’t you worried?”

My answer is: “If I’ve done the very best I can, worrying won’t make it any better. If you want to be successful, respect one rule- never let failure take control of you. Cause everybody has gone through something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person that they once were.”

So, this year gave me some shocks. I met my mother after almost 9 years. And for the first time of my life, I met my dad.  Those two experiences brought a mixture of opposite emotions within me. Every time I have a plan in my head for my future, time don’t forget to surprize me. Hopefully, I am surrounded by people who care about me and who are never tired of giving me advice when needed and want what is best for me. I read somewhere that parents are supposed to introduce you to strangers, help you adapt to new situations, not vice versa. However, that was not my situation. While rebuilding my relationship with my parents, I learned that forgiveness means moving forward despite the past. So, from now on, I will be the creator and the writer of my own story. 

Another event this year was my enrolment in high school. I am attending one of the best high schools in Tirana. What I like about this school is that the students can explore their hobbies through different activities. While growing up in SOS Children’s Village Tirana, I was urged to explore and cultivate various interests, which I strongly believe have contributed to shaping the person I am today. That is why art is my way of understanding the world. With art, even dandelions can be transformed into suns and moons. I started drawing and dancing at the age of seven and unconsciously learned to give colours and music to my life.

For me, being a high school student means setting clear goals to accomplish your dreams. My goals for this year are being a good student, practicing sports, and of course art. And as my SOS mother says – “with your determination and our family support, you can achieve everything.”

Another thing I learned was that there’s something wonderful about time. It shows you that efforts and patience pay you back by unfolding new roads on which you walk happily. It teaches you that change is part of life, and through experience, we gain wisdom. I have changed. And through change, I learned to accept and love myself for who I am. Maybe I have a different story from those of my friends, but it surely has miracles, blessings and good luck in it.

I am happy about not being perfect. Because for me, perfection is for straight lines and edges, and I am as shaped as my heart.”

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Eli*, no longer a child today

A different story for some, but the same for others
I grew up in SOS Children’s Village Tirana together with other children. Now that I remember in the first days, I thought that the only thing I and them had in common were our sad stories. They were my brothers and sisters, and we were all similar and unique in our own ways.

To better understand, let's start from the beginning of Eli's story.

In 1999, I was placed in the SOS Children’s Village Tirana after my family split up. I was scared and confused but also a little but curious. “What is this place?” I though. “Welcome to the family”, was the first phrase the SOS mother said to me. I quickly learned that it is called a family for a reason. The most important person for us in it was the mother. Her efforts to take care of us make her the most important in our eyes. Even though we were not siblings by blood, we became more than that. Although I was only 10 years old, my life in the SOS Children’s Village Tirana felt like a fresh start. I learned to warmly live with people whom I never knew or expected to encounter in my lifetime.

As we mature, we come to realize that happiness can be found even in the midst of sorrowful tales. During my time in the village, I developed a newfound appreciation for the love that comes with having siblings. Sara* and Ani* became my sisters in the household, and together we shared both our troubles and aspirations. We played, laughed, and even shed tears together. Hand in hand, we grew up alongside each other and created countless cherished memories. Is that the entirety of what a sister represents in the end?

In the village, I discovered my love for sports and aspired to become the best possible version of myself.
Through hard work and the support of those who believed in me, I succeeded. I was able to graduate from the University of Sports. I am proud not only of my achievements, but also of the happiness I brought to my family and supporters. My life has been a great journey. I have had the chance to grow in a different environment from most of my peers but in a very beautiful way. As a mother of two children, I now comprehend the significance of love, shelter, and family. Today, I can realize how much spiritual fulfilment I received where I grew up.
Sometimes it feels like I am part of a story written in a book where only my imagination can give life to the words. My sister Sara* tells me of being very poetic but I like it. I want to see life this way, open to accept the future surprises that life can bring.
*Kindly note that for privacy and child protection reasons, we have changed the original names of the children.”

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Ada*, 11 years old

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“Dear diary, I’m writing to you because I don’t want to share my wishes with my parents. I know that they will not be able to make it happen for me, and this causes sadness in their eyes…” 

Ada had written in her notebook, which she named “Ada’s Diary”.

Ada’s mother is unable to work due to her mental health conditions, and occasionally she is unable to care for girls. Ada’s grandmother is available to help, but she is old and in poor health. Ada’s father is the only provider of food for the family, but not having a profession makes it even harder for him to find a job. Ada and her sister did not attend school regularly.

They had been experiencing a decline in their school results despite the support and care shown by her grandmother and father. Their family situation affected their performance at school and their relationship with peers. For Ada her best friend was only her older sister who understand her, and her notebook.
Ada’s journey with the SOS Children’s Villages in Albania started three years ago. In a time, when her parents were struggling to keep the family together and were having difficulties in providing the care and stability that the children need.
Through SOS Children’s Villages projects in prevention and protection, every family member got the support needed to help them thrive and make their family succeed. Our colleagues made sure that Ada’s mother took all the needed medications and supported her in accessing social and healthcare services.

Fredi*, her father, participated in various parenting workshops to improve his parental skills. Ada and her sister were supported with psychological consulting and education, including school supplies, learning materials and after-school help. Ada and her family members worked together with the social workers, and experts to strengthen the family.

During a training session after a year of receiving support, Fredi said:
“I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I work hard, I love my family, and I take care of my children, my wife and my mother. We all face challenges at different times, but some struggles can be more difficult than others. My situation has taught me that we should be less judgmental and more supportive of those going through difficult times. Through my experiences, I have come to understand that even simple acts of kindness can have a significant impact on those who are struggling with various challenges in their lives.”

In our work, together with partners, donors, communities, local municipalities we enable children to grow up with the bonds they need to develop and become their strongest selves. We enable families to find better ways of being there for each other.
*Kindly note that for privacy and child protection reasons, we have changed the original names of the children.”

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